I apologize in advance, but SOMEBODY (I won't mention any names ANDRES) really got me thinking. Happiness is something I have such a strong opinion about but am so hypocritical in practice.
You know why happiness is so elusive? Because it's not tangible. It's not a pursuit (despite what our Declaration of Independence may say) or an objective; it's not conditional or subject to fate; it is not that which can be acquired, or learned, described or articulated. Happiness is, in all simplicity, just that: the state of BEING "happy".
Webster's Dictionary defines the philosophical definitions of "being" as follows:
a. that which has actuality either materially OR in idea.
b. absolute existence in a complete or perfect state, lacking no essential characteristic; essence.
Happiness is a state of being. It's not something that can be described, because it is, in itself, an "absolute existence". Happiness is an "idea" of man - a feeling, an emotion, that we, as humans, have attached meaning to. Further, happiness is relative - if I may cite a Brazilian proverb: "Alegria de uns, tristeza de outros" - One man’s happiness is another man’s sadness. How can something that is neither static or tangible, nor material or learned, nor able to be articulated, possibly be attained by pursuit?
The sooner people stop this paradoxical treadmill of pursuing happiness, the sooner people can begin enjoying life for what life can and only offer to us as humans: experiencing and knowing ourselves in relation to all that we are and all that we are surrounded by. As I have begun to grow "more mature" (don't anyone DARE say older!), it's become glaringly apparent as to the speed of which life passes. I have had to learn the hard way that life is not about the pursuit of happiness, but is about experiencing both the wonderful and the miserable (both terms, by the way, are construes of man - only we judge good or bad, right or wrong, unless we absolve ourselves of this burden by submitting to a higher power), and that which makes us happy and that which makes us sad.
And herein lies my point: In developing a sense of happiness in our life by knowing emotions in relation to other emotions (I am not "sad" and therefor must be "happy") we evidence that we are capable of determining our happiness within our own states of mind. A baby is not taught what "happiness" is, just as it is not taught what it is to be "unhappy". The baby creates these states of being though experience and relational constructs in his/her mind. The person does this throughout his or her life, constantly adjusting what it means to be "happy" to themselves. In my case, this ability resulted in an ugly spiraling affect, whereas I believed that the more possessions I had, the nicer things I owned, and the more people who "liked" me, the happier I would become. Unfortunately, the "happiness" never materialized, because happiness is NOT TANGIBLE.
I am not alone in my experiences.. on the contrary, my story is even cliche. Happiness is a state of mind... and there is only one person in control of your mind, and that's you. Everybody on this planet could be happy today, if they only chose to. Unfortunately, most people still believe that they are powerless in their state of being, and it is this powerlessness, this feeling of inferiority, and our dismissal of the incredible potential and abilities we have as human beings that has, is, and will continue to plague mankind for many, many years to come.